Emotionally intelligent teens

Are something I have yet to find - I think it's a development thing, they simply haven't developed enough to think about much past their own immediate needs.
Of more challenge to me is the fact that I do have emotional intelligence and I ought to be able to employ it when dealing with teenagers as discussed here

I just seem incapable of doing it though.

How do the rest of you get on with snotty teens who think they know everything when it's apparent to the rest of the world they know very little?